{"id":207,"date":"2014-08-15T00:08:42","date_gmt":"2014-08-15T00:08:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/ashleymoneet1991.wordpress.com\/?p=207"},"modified":"2015-06-09T14:20:38","modified_gmt":"2015-06-09T14:20:38","slug":"confessions-of-a-christian-virgin-pt-4-ways-to-overcome-and-abstain-from-sexual-immorality-6-10","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/christian-encouragement\/confessions-of-a-christian-virgin-pt-4-ways-to-overcome-and-abstain-from-sexual-immorality-6-10\/","title":{"rendered":"Confessions of a Christian Virgin Pt4 “Ways to Overcome and Abstain From Sexual Immorality” 6 through 10"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n
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6 USE SELF CONTROL NOT BIRTH CONTROL<\/span><\/h1>\n
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I know I will probably get A LOT of heat for saying this lol\u2026but I\u2019m going to go ahead and say it because God\u2019s spirit is leading me to do so! For single Christians our form of \u201cbirth control\u201d is called \u201cself-control.\u201d I know the world tells us that there\u2019s nothing wrong with using condoms, or taking birth control pills, birth control\u00a0shots, IUDs etc..but we\u2019re not under the world\u2019s standards, we\u2019re under God\u2019s standards. If you\u2019re not taking birth control for medical reasons like hormonal issues or something, then there\u2019s no need for a single Christian to be taking it. You may be thinking\u2026 \u201cWell Ashley, what about if I just take it just in case, as preventory measure because I know I\u2019m weak with abstaining from sexual immorality? It’s better for me to be safe then sorry right?\u201d I will say it again, the answer to that is self-control! There\u2019s no such thing as \u201cjust in case I sin\u201d in God\u2019s word. God calls us to remain pure\u2026period point blank (1 Cor 6:19).<\/p>\n

So many times individuals want to use birth-control as a security blanket to protect them from unwanted pregnancy.\u00a0NO form of birth control can protect you from the spiritual separation from God that occurs because of sexual immorality and\u00a0NO form of birth control can protect you from the consequences that you have to deal with\u00a0as a result of sexual immorality ( 1 Cor 6:9-10). We are not God so at the end of the day birth control is not 100% effective. If God chooses to open up your womb or the womb of the woman you\u2019re laying with, He will open it up! Birth control cannot protect you and or save you. Only obedience to God\u2019s word can. I believe using birth control also gives you more of an incentive to have sex because it gives you a false sense of security. There are even parents who choose to give it to their teenage children thinking their doing them a favor, but in actuality they are bringing harm to their children. Christian households should not promote the usage of birth control for their single children. It doesn\u2019t matter how sexually active someone has been in the past or is currently, God\u2019s word stands true. If individuals are bold enough to lie down and partake in sexual sins, they should be bold enough to deal with the consequences that sexual immorality brings. Self-control and obedience to God\u2019s word is the answer\u2026not birth control.<\/p>\n

\u201cA man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls.\u201d \u2013 Proverbs 25:28<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

7 SURROUND YOURSELF BY PEOPLE AND ENVIRONMENTS THAT SUPPORT YOUR SPIRITUAL DECISION<\/span><\/h1>\n
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The people that are closest to us and the environments that we keep around us have a continual effect on us. There\u2019s nothing more disheartening than to want to grow spiritually but have people constantly around you who are pulling you away from spiritually growing. The bible lets us know that \u201cbad company corrupts good morals\u201d (1 Cor 15:33). We can\u2019t expect to continually surround ourselves by unspiritual individuals and unspiritual environments and expect to grow spiritually (2 Cor 6: 14). That may mean letting go of some friends\u2026 even some relationship partners. If every time you hang with your girlfriends or home boys they are talking about their wild weekend or how they had sex with someone, how is that helping you? Or if you make it clear to them that you\u2019re trying to abstain from sexually immorality but they are constantly questioning and pressuring you to sleep with someone, then those friends have GOT TO GO! Even if your relationship partner does not support your decision and constantly pressures you to do things, or purposely does things that get you all \u201chot and bothered\u201d that person does not truly have your best interest at heart. Your relationship partner should not only respect your spiritual values but SHARE your spiritual values. How do you expect to be in a spiritual relationship if the person you’re with is constantly breaking your spiritual boundaries? If you say no kissing, no caressing and they still give continual attempts to do those things with you, the you must ask yourself, “Does this person truly care about me and my soul?” We can\u2019t afford to keep people in our lives that constantly put our spiritual well-being at stake.<\/p>\n

We must\u00a0watch our environments as well. Environments play a really big part (1 Thess 5:22). Going to parties and\/or clubs watching people grind on each other, or being surrounded by people who are half dressed\u00a0is\u00a0NOT helping your mind stay in a pure spiritual state. Instead it\u2019s tempting you and potentially opening the door for you to put yourself in a compromising situation. We must constantly be aware about the people we have in our lives and the environments we choose to be a part of our lives. We must be sure to evaluate who we have in our lives and what spiritual effect they have on us.<\/p>\n

\u201cBe not deceived, evil communications corrupt good manners.\u201d \u2013 1 Cor 15:33<\/p>\n

\u201cAbstain from all appearance of evil.\u201d \u2013 1 Thess 5:22<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

8 HAVE AN ACCOUNTABLITY PARTNER<\/span><\/h1>\n
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To make it through this Christian life, we must realize that we can\u2019t do it all by ourselves. We need our Christian brothers and sisters to help us. That\u2019s what the bible constantly reminds us of. We are to \u201ccarry each other burdens\u201d in order to make the load of struggles and challenges that much easier. So I encourage you, if you have not gotten an accountability partner, get one. This accountability partner may be different for everyone. For some people it may be one of their parents, a sibling, a close friend, a mentor, or a cousin. The only key in an accountability partner is that they must be someone who is a spiritual individual who can properly encourage and advise you in a spiritual way. They should be someone that can pray with you and for you. They should also\u00a0be someone who you can openly share your struggles with and bare your soul before. This is important because you should want to be able to be fully honest with them so they can help you with whatever struggle you\u2019re dealing with. We ALL STRUGGLE and knowing that we\u2019re not alone in the Christian fight gives us the strength to keep moving forward. So don\u2019t be afraid to get an accountability partner and have someone you can talk to about your struggles and temptations.<\/p>\n

\u201cCarry each other\u2019s burdens and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.\u201d- Gal 6:2<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

***Sidenote**** (I recommend keeping this accountability partner to someone of the same sex in order to prevent mix singles and\/or dangerous emotional ties from being developed).<\/p>\n

9 KEEP A POSITIVE ATTITUDE<\/span><\/h1>\n
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So many times we do ourselves an injustice by having a continual negative attitude about something that God wants us to do. God\u2019s commandments should never be burdensome to us but instead delightful to participate in. When we say things like\u2026 \u201cMan what\u2019s the point of not having sex? Everybody else is doing it.\u201d Or \u201cIt\u2019s so lame being a virgin or not participating in sexual things. Who does that anymore?\u201d Or “Who’s going to want me if I’m not willing to have sex with them while I date them?” When we think things like that, we are subliminally sending ourselves messages that counteract the very thing that we are trying to do. Stay positive no matter what (Phil 4:8)! Realize that what God is calling you to do is SO WORTH IT! Realize the blessing in glorifying and pleasing God. When we realize the joy it brings God to know that His children are living a life that glorifies Him, we should never get tired of living right. Abstaining from sexual immorality is worth keeping a positive attitude about because it\u2019s something that pleases God. Don\u2019t be a \u201cDebbie Downer\u201d on yourself. Realize the joy in living a life for God! You can do it!<\/p>\n

\u201cThis is love for God to obey his commands. And His commands are not burdensome.\u201d -1John 5:3<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

10 STAY PRODUCTIVE AND KEEP YOURSELF ACTIVE IN THE LORD\u2019S WORK<\/span><\/h1>\n
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An idle mind and an idle life is the Devil\u2019s playground. So many times we get caught up with sexual sins and temptations because we\u2019re not being productive for the Lord. Every day we should constantly seek opportunities to become active in the Lord\u2019s kingdom. When we stay focused on \u201ckingdom business\u201d we have no time to focus on unspiritual things. Staying busy in God\u2019s kingdom also prevents self-pity and time to sit and indulge in unfruitful behavior. It gives you a reason every day to live and work towards something because you realize that you have an important role in the kingdom of God. So stay busy in God no matter what! It will prevent A LOT OF pitfalls and sexual sins.<\/p>\n

\u201cTherefore, my dear brothers, stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord, because you know that your labor in the Lord is not in vain.\u201d -1 Cor 15:58<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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\u2665 Ashley Moneet<\/span><\/h2>\n

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6 USE SELF CONTROL NOT BIRTH CONTROL I know I will probably get A LOT of heat for saying this lol\u2026but I\u2019m going to go ahead and say it because God\u2019s spirit is leading me to do so! For single Christians our form of \u201cbirth control\u201d is called \u201cself-control.\u201d I know the world tells us […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":3460,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[35,36,39,43,49,55,57],"tags":[62,64,70,73,83,86,95,97,104],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/207"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=207"}],"version-history":[{"count":6,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/207\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3466,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/207\/revisions\/3466"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3460"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=207"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=207"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.f3ashley.com\/2021\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=207"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}